How Porn Creates Strongholds (And How to Break Them)
with Wade McHargue
ABOUT THIS EPISODE
Where does the struggle with lust and pornography actually begin? Not when you click the link. Long before that. Early exposure shapes the mind in ways most people never unpack, and years of trying harder doesn't touch the root. This conversation goes deeper than behavior modification. We talk about how strongholds take root over time, the spiritual and mental dynamics behind lust, why willpower alone keeps you stuck in the same cycles, and what it actually looks like to renew your mind with God's Word. Freedom isn't found in trying harder. It begins with truth, surrender, and transformation from the inside out. If you're tired of the secrecy and shame, tired of white-knuckling it through another week, this one's for you. You're not alone and you're not beyond hope.
KEY TAKEAWAYS
- •Strongholds aren't built overnight but through years of feeding lustful thoughts and images
- •Unbelief is the enemy's primary weapon, convincing you that freedom is impossible
- •Fasting helped Wade hear God's voice clearly about cutting off all triggers and memorizing Scripture
- •Memorizing around 30 verses brought light, faith, and spiritual authority to take thoughts captive
- •When the enemy attacked Wade in a dream, he used God's Word to defeat him and experienced total freedom
- •Your thought life determines your destiny, so renewing your mind with Scripture is essential
- •God's design for intimacy in marriage is gentle, complimentary, and life-giving, the opposite of porn's influence
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Support This WorkAbout Wade McHargue
Wade is a follower of Christ who experienced freedom from a twelve-year struggle with lust through fasting, Scripture memorization, and renewing his mind. He co-hosts the 'Miracle Stories' podcast with his wife Kate and runs the Elijah Generation website to encourage believers.
SHOW NOTES
Wade shares how early exposure at age seven opened a spiritual door to lust that gripped him for twelve years. His story reveals the battle isn't just physical but deeply spiritual, and freedom comes through God's Word, not willpower.
The Spiritual Battle Behind Lust
Strongholds don't develop overnight. They're built over years of feeding lustful thoughts and images. From age seven to nineteen, Wade experienced how the enemy plants seeds in the kingdom of darkness, laying dormant for seasons before attacking again. The enemy's primary weapon is unbelief—the lie that you'll never be free. Many godly men told Wade he'd struggle with this for life, but something in him refused to accept that bondage. The discontent he felt became the catalyst for seeking God's way out.
Fasting and Hearing God's Voice
Through fasting, Wade finally heard God clearly. The Lord told him to cut off everything feeding his flesh—not just explicit content, but even PG-13 movies and anything sensual that opened the door to lustful thinking. Then God gave him a specific command: memorize Scripture. Wade's immediate response was, "Lord, I'm not a good memorizer." But God replied, "What I have commanded you to do, I'll give you the grace to do it." Grace isn't just for salvation—it's empowerment to obey. God promised to replace Wade's lustful thoughts with His voice through memorizing His Word.
The Word Brings Authority
Wade started with Proverbs 4:18 on an index card during lunch breaks. After memorizing around 30 verses, light flooded his mind. Faith rose up. Instead of feeling defensive and hoping lust would go away, spiritual authority rose within him. He could bring every thought captive and make it obedient to Christ (2 Corinthians 10:5). Then came the pivotal night—Wade woke from a vivid sexual dream to a demonic presence saying, "See, you'll never be free." But the Word was in his heart. He declared, "Devil, you tried, you couldn't tempt me in the day, so you came at night. And you failed." The atmosphere shifted instantly. The presence left. God's presence filled the room. From that moment, Wade was free.
Renewing Your Mind for Freedom
Romans 12 teaches that transformation comes through renewing the mind. Your thought life leads to your decisions, your decisions to your habits, your habits to your lifestyle, and your lifestyle to your destiny. Disciplining yourself for godliness (1 Timothy 4:7) means renewing your mind through God's Word. Wade's testimony built faith in other brothers—one dropped to his knees and experienced freedom hours later through prayer. The enemy shows you the pretty part but never the end result: broken marriages, devastated spouses, and minds so fried they can't experience God's design for intimacy. Song of Solomon reveals God's design—gentle, complimentary, security-building intimacy that's the opposite of porn's aggression and dominance.
Freedom is possible. It starts with believing God can set you free, cutting off what feeds the flesh, and filling your mind with Scripture. What you behold is who you become.
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Early Exposure And Spiritual Battle
Justin: Seven years old Silas in a neighborhood, good neighborhood, parents to try to do the right thing, try to protect me, put in a video. Hey, check this out. Completely clueless. Seven years old. And I remember that when I saw these images, something spiritual happened. Just felt this this hooks in my flesh pulling me back. And I hear a voice saying, See, you'll never be free.
Guest: From seven to nineteen. Strongholds are developed overnight.
Guest: There's the kingdom of light, and then there's the kingdom of darkness. They're both planting seeds. I'm two weeks clean or I'm one month clean. But what the enemy does, he's very cunning. He lays dormant for a season.
Guest: And the houses need to be swept in an order, and there's nothing put in to replace, more demons come in.
Justin: He was so fried in his brain with his dopamine and all that stuff that's going on, he couldn't even ask a few questions.
Guest: Um, something that I've been pondering in 2 Corinthians, where it talks about how our weapons of warfare are not carnal, but mighty through God to the pulling down of strongholds. And so when you were dealing with this corn issue and having uh just this stronghold in your mind, like what was it like prior and what was your mindset today, now that you've been set free?
Justin: Yeah, it's it's a really um uh powerful testament. I think a lot of us is gonna attest to what that transformation happening. So for me, um the reality that I began to see was how much unbelief has a play in all of this.
Guest: How did this door open in your life? When did when did it be?
Justin: First start. Seven years old. Seven years old. So I was in a neighborhood, good neighborhood, parents to try to do the right thing, try to protect me. Uh, but the enemy hates innocence, and the enemy hates children. And a neighborhood boy, two years older, um, invited me into his house, didn't know what I was walking into, and he put put in a video. Hey, check this out. Completely clueless, seven years old. And I remember that when I saw these images, something spiritual happened. I was not even saved, I was seven years old, but something dark. I remember it. It was like it was an inexplicable presence that suddenly, this isn't just, you know, we're not just living in a materialistic world. Yeah. There's a spiritual component here. And many times I I'll honor, you know, there's a reality of addiction and the physical component of what it does to the brain, the dopamine, all that stuff, but there's a spiritual component, and we cannot underestimate that. And that's what happened. Something dark entered me. And I and I immediately uh, you know, went to my parents, and that's I didn't run, I don't remember that detail, but they kind of filled me in later. But from
Addiction’s Grip And False Hope
Justin: that day forward, something had gripped my flesh, and there was a door that had opened up, and so I began to compromise from there on out.
Guest: From seven to nineteen, like strongholds aren't developed overnight, right? Right? It's um I think there's a process where this stuff take me from the I saw the the thing, I saw the video with a buddy at seven years old, not even really knowing what I saw, to 19-year-old having dreams, finally realizing that I'm free, right? What was that like, what was that deepening of that process like?
Justin: Yeah, I mean it's it's connected uh to feeding feeding the addiction. It's the thoughts that keep on replaying, and that's what it is, right? I mean, that was one of the revelations that I had that the lamp of the body is the eye. And how even scientifically, you know, they can prove that you know the optic nerve goes directly to the brain. It's a very these these are literally the two gateways, and as a man thinks in his heart that's who he is. So I I just kept feeding it, and um, and I would make promises to God. Uh that sounds familiar. Come on, and uh, I'll stop doing it, and then I would have like a two-week, even a month, even a three-month victory, baby victory. And but yet to your point, Justin, just felt this this pull these hooks in my flesh pulling me back. And so there is a to your point, there is a false hope you can have, and then there's this solid hope where you know that you know that you know, because why? Because it's not rooted in your faith, it's rooted in the word of God. Yeah, by disbelieving, it really keeps you in that place of bondage, and that's where the enemy wants you, you know. Like you, so I'll I'll give you part of my testimony in that regard. Um, I grew up in, had some good godly men around me, and I brought this issue up, and I really got a lot of responses that were like, you'll never really get free from this. And that's just disbelief. So very discouraging. And uh, and so I I respected them, but they're like basically, you know, this is gonna be your you're gonna kind of succumb to this probably for the rest of your life, off and on. There's something deep in me, and I was the grace of God, and I'm sure it was people praying for me, my parents being probably the first ones, that it didn't settle in me. I was like, no, there's god, I can't live like this. I can't live with this kind of yoke on my shoulder, feeling condemned in my thoughts. Surely this is not the victorious life that Jesus came to bring me. I I feel miserable. I feel like I'm walking around just with just getting hammered. And uh, and so that was something that really began to have me cry out to God, say, Lord, there's gotta be a way. I don't and I I can't live like this any, you know, for the rest of my life. So that was the first thing was the discontent. It was like this this thing that moved me to not just accept that this is what it is, but to say, no, there's gotta be something. So I actually wasn't really taught about fasting, but I was by the grace of God moved that way to begin to fast. And as I fasted, uh, the Lord began to work in my heart, and
Weapons Of Warfare And Unbelief
Justin: um he also sent me some good brothers. And we um that that came a little bit, but God began to use brothers in my life that were really seeking God and going hard after the Lord. But the thing that really transformed was as I was fasting, the Lord finally got through. I thought people, listen, if God can get through my head, he can get through anybody's head. I mean, I sometimes like he needs, I felt like a two by four, you know, that needs needed. Because I got a big head, bro, so I understand. Bro, I heard the Lord finally get through to me. He was speaking, but I finally listened. And he said very clearly, he said, if you will shut off these things that are feeding your flesh, and he began to reveal to me not just the obvious things, like the explicit, but even the things that the the doors that open it. So like even PG 13, anything, PG, anything that is sensual that is provoking you even to think the next step, you need to cut it off. That that's for me. Now I know that some people, you know, like whatever addiction people are dealing with, they other people that might struggle with that as much. They might say, well, I can I can drink a glass of wine at night, right? But if if this is something that is, you can't have anything, right? That that's how it was for me. I there's there's no room for this because I'm already uh knowing what what a stronghold this is in my life. And so uh through fasting, I heard the Lord say, cut off everything. And he began to reveal to me these compromises, these movies that were acceptable, that were not acceptable to him, and were opening the door. So that was the first thing. Then he said to me very clearly, he said, if you will memorize my word, he said, I will replace these thoughts and I will and I take these thoughts out and I'll replace it with my voice. And I remember my immediate response to him when I when I heard him say that was, Lord, I'm not a good memorizer, I'm not a good student. And I did, I struggled through school, and I immediately heard the Lord say to me, What I have commanded you to do, I'll give you the grace to do it.
Guest: Wow.
Justin: And a lot of people don't realize that grace in the Bible is not just for salvation. We we think about Ephesians 2.8.9, for by grace are we saved through faith. But the other way that it's used in the Bible is actually empowerment. Uh, and that's the grace that the grace also empowers us. You know, Paul said, I worked harder than all the other apostles, yet not not I, but the grace of God in me. Um the grace of God is sufficient. Paul is saying, Lord, remove this thorn, and and he says, My grace is sufficient. In other words, uh my grace will empower you to be able to. And so that grace came, the gr the grace of God came, and uh, anyways, I when he said that to me, it was like no more excuses.
Guest: So, wait, fast forward. You've surrendered now your life to Christ, whom the Son sets free is free indeed, but yet you're still bound to this very addiction. Yeah. What was the lies that you were believing about yourself and the enemy was pouring into your ears that cause you to grip to or hold on to rather than the truth of God's word in that moment, right? Because I think that's what has happened for even me personally in my own life, where I've chosen to believe the lie rather than behold the truth, right? Yeah, you know, and I think the thing is that what we behold is who we become. Yeah. And often at times we choose to behold the lie rather than beholding the truth. And so for you and your your life, like what what would you say has shifted? Like, I really believe that it's not the act, it's the thought process, as we've mentioned, that causes the act that keeps people bound in this addiction. Right. Because we we have to admit, right, it's if you look at it, it's like oh cool, I I look at it, but you thought about it before you did it, right? And so, like just before God thought and spoke these things into existence, it it's it's the same way that we we work as individuals and um human beings, right? It's our mind, will, and emotions, right? And so, like often at times I'm straight away to doing such things because of my own lustful desires, and and I'm enticed by those things rather than being moved by the you know the will of God. And so I really, if you can kind of touch on that just a little bit, yeah.
Justin: So more of the root than the fruit, right? What's the root? And and so I think for me, getting back to just uh touch on what transformed me was that issue. You know, we talk
Fasting, Brothers, And Cutting Off Triggers
Justin: about the word repentance, we know it's connected to a sorrow, godly sorrow leads to repentance, but the word, as you guys know, it means the change of the mind. Right. And um, and so the truth of Romans 12 that we're not to be conformed to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of the mind, that we can discern the good, acceptable, and the perfect will of God. So that that that when the Lord spoke to me about you need to memorize my word, you know, I I read it and I wasn't really discipled, but uh the Lord said, memorize it. And that's why I made that excuse. And so I just want to encourage everyone out there that the word of God, to your point, you shall know the truth, and the truth shall set you free. If we don't have the truth in us, uh John 17, 17, Jesus says, Father, sanctify them in your truth. Your word is truth. And so for me, my testimony to encourage people is listen, if you ask God to help you to memorize, he'll do it. And for me, I I remember my first verse I memorized is Proverbs 4.18. I was working construction at the time, and I on my lunch break, I pull out the the an index card with the address on the front and the verse on the back. And I kept on trying and trying, struggling. And after like three days, whatever, I finally memorized three or four days. The path of the righteous is like the light of dawn that shines brighter and brighter until full day. Then I went to the next one. That's and I tell people, listen, for me, it was like around 30 verses, like light came into my mind. And I think that when you know the truth and you know the word, there's another word that comes in my mind is that is you have faith, right? Faith comes by hearing, hearing the word of God. So faith rises up, getting back to that unbelief saying, you'll never be free. Faith combats that, and the faith comes from the word. But the other word that I would say is authority. I always felt like I was always on that defensive position. Wow. I hope it goes away. Wow. All of a sudden it was like this authority rose in me, and I'm like because the truth was in you. Yeah, and to and what you were quoting in the beginning, 2 Corinthians 10, the stronghold, and then verse 5, that we have the authority to bring every thought captive and make it obedient to Christ. That was the transformation for me. And I uh to be transparent, I'll I'll just tell you my D Day. Uh so I was in college going to York College in Pennsylvania, um, and I was off campus, and the Lord was freeing me by memorizing the word. The lust was leaving my life, and I felt so free, I felt so good. I felt like joy finally. I felt like my mind's clear, I can hear the voice of God, just like he promised me. And then one night I had a vivid uh sexual dream, very vivid, and I woke up out of a dead sleep, and I there was a presence in the room. This is off-campus housing, I have my own room, and I hear a voice saying, See, you'll never be free. Wow. I mean, come on, how do you explain that? You have a dream. I did a video about that last night. Did you? And and then and then you wake up and there's a presence in the room, yeah, and you hear a voice saying, see, you'll never be free. And I would say at that moment was was the was the crossroads for my life. Because if I didn't have the word in my heart, I would tell people, like in the day of battle, you can't say, Hold on, let me go get my sword. You know, it's like it's gotta be like boom, right? Like Jesus in the wilderness. It is written. And so when he came, I could have gone into unbelief. Oh, never before. And but it's turned by the word, and in my room, it like the spirit of God rose in me and I said out loud, I said, which kind of even caught me off guard. I was like amazed. Out of my mouth comes, devil, you tried, you couldn't tempt me into sin when I was in the day. So you came at night and I said, and you failed. I yelled it out, and all of a sudden the whole atmosphere of the room shifted. I felt like it was like boom, it just left. And I just felt all of a sudden the power and the presence of God come in the room, and it was like I could almost
Memorizing Scripture For Renewed Minds
Justin: hear the father say, Yes, son, you got it. Yeah, and that was it. From that time forward, I was like a rocket, like into the stratosphere, and and and and it was like I'm free. Like he came to me in my subconscious, and the Lord is sanctifying even that part of my mind.
Guest: So, what does a young man do that's struggling right now, right? So you you got a guy, you know, in that position on the other end of the camera right now. Like uh, I've grown up, I've heard all this stuff about purity culture, and it's the women's fault, they should dress differently, it's society's fault, it's YouTube's fault for putting all these videos, my algorithm, it just feeds me women all the time. So, what does a young man do in today's culture? Like, you know, to be able to, you know, stay pure and not not fall victim to this stuff.
Justin: Yeah, it's you know, brother, what you brought up. I mean, you become what you behold. I think that there's gotta be that intentionality to say, I'm sick and tired of being sick and tired. And I think that's all of our testimonies. Um you have to assess. The prodigal came to his senses. I'm eating with pigs. This is not, and I think another thing that Paul makes it very clear in 2 Corinthians is there's a revelation of the brevity of my life. I'm gonna stand before the Lord, and that could be tomorrow. Do I really want this to be my destiny? And I and I heard from somebody who said so clearly, your thought life leads to your decisions, your decisions lead to your habits, your habits lead to your lifestyle, and your lifestyle leads to your destiny. Your destiny is connected to your thought life. So I've got to recognize that. And so I think first of all, what we're doing, what you're doing, what you guys brothers are doing is very important. We overcome the enemy, the Bible says in Revelation 1211, in three ways. The blood of the Lamb, that's his accusations. He sub He silences the voices that say, You, you, you, you're this and that, and the other. No, I'm a new creation in Christ. Amen. Yeah. The second thing, though, is they overcame by the word of their testimony. My my conviction is the word of the testimony releases, it brings faith. And so it's a the weapon of the enemy is unbelief. This is where I believe a lot of men stay. That's my testimony. You're staying in that place because of unbelief. You cannot conjure up faith. You've got to renew your mind through the word of God. And that is a that's a discipline. The Bible says in 1 Timothy 4 7, discipline yourself for the purpose of godliness. Yeah, it's hard. I'm sorry. The the Bible says, 2 Timothy 2, that uh Paul says, you know, that to endure hardship as a good soldier of Jesus Christ. We're soldiers, man. And and and and don't get entangled in all day affairs. But you're you're that the aim of the enlisting officer is to please his his the the commanding officer who called him into battle or called him into the into the into the army. So I think just to encourage people, just listening to this podcast, my prayer is these testimonies will build your faith. You know, that when you hear another brother say, and and let me give you, let me give you a testimony in this. When God set me free, I was with a group of brothers, and there's a brother who you could have to testify to this experience that was in that room. About six brothers. We were seeking God, okay? But God had set me free in this area of lust. I came in and I said
Night Attack And Taking Authority
Justin: to the brothers, bro, I said, God set me free, man. And I I knew it was free. We we know what it's like to be free. I'm free. And I remember when I said that, one brother in particular, awesome brother, he dropped to his knees right there and he said, I believe God. Do it in me. Wow, okay. There was another brother when I said it, he looked at me like I had two heads. And then and one brother said, I believe too. And when he looked at the brother who had a look of like his whole countenance changed, and he was like, Who are we fooling ourselves? So later on, that brother who said got down on his knees, he told me, he said, That when the brother that first believed and then disbelieved, he called him on the phone later on the day. He said, Brother, I think we're fooling ourselves. You can't be really free from this. And to this brother's credit, who had a power A long rap sheet of lust, more than mine was. He put his hand on the phone. This is the old day for the for the cell phone.
Guest: That was the mute button.
Justin: That was the me button. Y'all don't know about that. And he said, he said, I rebuke you, devil, in the name of Jesus Christ. Not to the guy, but to the, he knew that there's the voice of the enemy. And he said, He said, Brother, I can't talk to you right now. I'm gonna pray for you. Hung up the phone. This brother got on his knees, cried out to God, Lord, set my brother free. He had just claimed birthday for himself just a few hours ago. About two hours later, after he prays, that other brother who's doubted called him back, said, Brother, I'm free. I feel it. Come on. After that prayer. So let me just finish with this part of the testimony. Later, to your point, he stayed true. A few days later, three o'clock in the morning, he gets awakened out of a dead sleep. Those of you listening, I'm praying you would you understand this is spiritual. You can't deny this. Dead sleep wakes up and he feels moved to go over to his balcony of his apartment. And under the lamp, middle of the night, under a light post, someone comes in and drops a stack of corn under the light outside of his body. He doesn't know who this guy is, and then walks away. And he says, I rebuke. I mean, it's like someone dropping a bunch of drugs on the doorstep. That's insane. And he and he and he says, I rebuke you in the name of Jesus Christ. And he walked in free. Freedom. So my point is so much of that was connected to faith.
Guest: Yeah.
Justin: Just Jesus says, all things are possible to those who believe. And the enemy just comes and says, You're never gonna get free. And that's a lie.
Guest: Yeah.
Guest: Like you said, don't uh don't go under a lamppost, guys.
Guest: I'm um wait, I'm not hurting anybody, right? Right. I'm just, I mean, I I watch my movies, I do my thing, you know what I'm saying? I'm not out sleeping prostitutes, whatever, you know what I'm saying? Like, it's not hurting anybody.
Justin: Right.
Guest: So, I mean, what's the danger, right, for a man with that mindset? Right. Like, they don't they see the stories on TV, like I just alluded to earlier, of the guy who's been hiding a secret for 30 years that's more grotesque than we could ever imagine. But in comparison, really not that bad. Yeah, what do you say to young man caught up in that mindset that this is just I'm just a try- I'm here's the lie I used to use the line I used to use all the time. I'm just admiring God's creation.
Guest: Yeah, come on.
Guest: What's wrong with that?
Justin: That was a big one.
Practical Purity In A Sexualized Culture
Justin: Yeah, that was a big lie, right? Yeah, um, I'm 50 years old, I've been around the block, and I can tell you the truth of the scripture is there's a way that seems right to a man, but in the end it leads to death. In the Hebrew, that word end is the word acharit, which I learned from I didn't know the Hebrew, the significance, but to the Hebrew language, it's very visual. The word literally means back or end. You can't see the back of someone. I can only see the front of you. You have to get to get behind to see the back. And God's saying, this is what the back is, this is the acharit. The devil never shows you the acherit. He only wants to show you the pretty part. And just like the beer ads where all the fit people on the beach drinking it up, the enemy's not gonna show the cirrhosis of the liver.
Guest: Yes.
Justin: The devil's not gonna show you the broken marriages and the kids that are getting abused by an angry dad who's beaten them because he's drunk. He doesn't want to show the akarit. And the same thing with this issue. The ahirit is you're a slave. And you think that the glory's gonna honor that? No, the 1 Samuel 230 says, God says, Those who honor me, I will honor them. I've seen too many marriages where the brothers think that they can bring that into their marriage and it's not gonna impact them. I have testimonies that will break your heart.
Guest: Yeah, I heard you share one of those one time.
Justin: Break your heart. Yeah. Why is this all this ED issues going on? Because they have so frayed and fried themselves. That's they have to get a drug. But when you honor the Lord, the Lord honors you. And when you have a marriage that's built on what's right, it is God's design, and it is beautiful, and it is holy, and it is fulfilling. You will never find that in the devil's camp. And I want to say one more thing because what Justin said, I I I the issue of how our minds are programmed, this is so true, bro. And I'll be transparent. I think you heard his testimony, Justin. It was just one among many. I knew a brother, he hid the corn issue very well, and he ended up getting finally got married to a beautiful young lady who had kept herself. And on their wedding night, he was so fried in his brain with his dopamine and all that stuff that's going on, he couldn't even consummate the marriage without watching corn. And it devastated her. Can you imagine your wedding night? You've kept yourself, and this guy can't even be aroused by me. He's gotta look at this image in order to that that's how bad it is. And his and the concept of this is what it's supposed to look like. No, it's the opposite, and that's why one of my pet peeves is I don't like it when people over-spiritualize a song with Solomon. The Lord gave us that book to show what intimacy looks like in marriage, and and so if people will study that book, they'll understand God's design with sex, and it's powerful, and it's the opposite of the world. The world, it's like this, it's like this, it moves to anger and violence and dominance and uh and and like just aggressive behavior. Whereas a Song of Solomon, it's this gentleness, it is complimentary, that you're complimenting your spouse's body and up and down, and it's building the security, and my eyes are only for you, and you're and all of a sudden you just see God just breathe life and bring. So I would just encourage to, you know, God can change your marriage. He can change anyone's listening to this, he can transform it, but we've got to renew our minds. We've got to say, what's your design, God? I've learned this way, and it's not good. We all have brought things to the table that's maybe from our backgrounds. And and I'll just say, well, for my wife and I, one thing that was
The Endgame Of Lust And Marriage Harm
Justin: transformative in our lives was we just took the three main passages of uh marriage, Ephesians 5, 1 Peter 3, and Colossians 3. And I read the verse to her about my responsibility as a husband. She read about her the wife, and we prayed those things into our lives every day for 30 days. And I blessed her and she blessed me. And God, through the power of his word, began to change our mindsets of what marriage should look like. And it was transformative. God, we were our marriage was never the same. So we bring so many preconceived ideas of what expectations, all those things, and baggage. And we have to say, God, I need I need a blank slate and I need a new writing on my on my mind what you want. And that's He does that.
Guest: I wanted you to be able to share a word of encouragement to the men that are out there, or even women that are out there that have made the mistake, they're in that marriage and they're struggling, um, and they don't think that God could use them anymore because of this mistake. And I think that's one of the big lies is that we make the mistakes and then we believe to ourselves, whether you're in any form of addiction, that God could still want to use me. You know, um, did you ever feel after 19 that God still wanted to use you, or what would you speak to the individual that's maybe struggling or wrestling with that? It's like, yeah, he'll set me free, but then what?
Justin: First, just I know that this this is all of our testimony. Find your identity in not what you do, but who you are in Christ. A lot of times we find our identity in what someone has told about us or something, but really just resting in the knowledge that I belong to the Lord, and and my first priority is just to know him and uh to draw near to him. And so I would just say find the freedom in that to those who might be listening or or or watching, um, that's that's freedom because I don't have to find it in what anybody says about me, but just in the knowledge of um the the great is my greatest joy to be alone with the Lord. And the truth of Matthew 6, 6, you know, that when you pray, go into your prayer closet, and your father who sees you in secret will reward you openly. And I believe that's the the center of a target that just spreads out from that place that everything in our lives comes into alignment. There's no substitute for the presence of God. So if I'm encountering the Lord on a day-to-day basis, I want to encourage everyone. The first people that will be impacted is my family. If I'm not encountering the Lord, then my family, I can't give what I don't, I'm not receiving. And so it just pours out from that quiet time. And the disciples got it because they were like, they didn't ask Jesus, teach us to multiply bread, teach us to cast out devils, teach us to do ministry. They said, teach us how to pray. They understood that everything Jesus did was connected to his alone time with the Father. They saw him go off alone, they kept seeing him going off alone. And and then he would come back with with revelation. He'd come back, we have to go to another village now. Wait a minute, there's a whole crowd here. This is a good time to set up a church, you know. But no, we have to go somewhere. That that was his because he said in John 5, the Son could do nothing of himself, whatever he sees the Father do, the Son does likewise. And the Father will show him greater works than these that you may marvel. So there's this like what you said, brother, abiding. Uh that place of I'm I'm I'm
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Justin: drawing close to the Lord, and from that flows all this other life.
Guest: As we as we wrap up, man, just maybe take a moment into you and your wife have a podcast.
Justin: Yeah, so uh we're on YouTube, waiting, Kate, and uh we've done a podcast, Walking in Biblical Manhood. It's on uh iTunes and Spotify as well. And then my wife and I are doing right now called Miracle Stories because we we just wanted to give people encouragement that God still does miracles. Come on. And so we got to we've been testifying. We have, I think we're on 16 now, of um some really supernatural things that we were so humbled to be able to witness God do um that are uh defy natural explanation. And um, and I also have a website called the Elijah Generation.com. It's just to some tools out there. I hope that will encourage brothers uh to be able to you know just continue to press on and press forward and to uh to be ready to see our great king face to face. So um yeah, yeah, it's those things we're just trying trying to encourage uh just as we've been encouraged. And uh and we we just believe with you know the reality that our lives are a vapor. So let's let's encourage each other until that final day when we stand before the Almighty and be ready to give a good account.
Guest: So good, man. Thank you so much for sharing. Wade uh, this has been such a blessing. Um, viewers, I hope that you guys enjoyed listening to this podcast today on rebuilding life after addiction. Uh, if you can and this episode has impacted you, please hit the like button. Subscribe if you haven't subscribed already, hit the notifications to get updates on all the other podcasts that we'll be putting out there. Um, leave a comment below. Let us know what you're struggling with, how we can be praying for you. Uh, we'd love to hear from you and interact with you. Thank you, and I hope you guys have a blessed day. Peace.
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